Gain and Losses

Gain and losses. Who knows the right order of the two or the spiritual meaning of those words? We never understand those two words until we've gone through enough of life's ups and downs, bitterness and sweetness. 

It is human nature to always want to gain the upper hand in any scenario regardless if it's an argument, a fight, a game, a bet, a business, and so forth. They don't want to lose. They don't want the other one to have any gains. What is their reason of always seeking to gain everything they can and want? Everyone's reason is different. it could be for oursleves, their family, friends, for the thrill of it, for the power, it can be anything. They love the immense amount of thrill and rush they get from winning and it boosts their self-esteem to bringing them to believe they can get their way in anything. There is no clear answer to give other than hearing it from the person themselves. 

Loss. Everyone is afraid of losing whether it be a bet, a job opportunity, a fight, an argument, anything. It is in human nature to fear losing. It lowers their self-esteem and makes them feel insecure. They will torture themselves over the fact of losing something that was almost within their reach and then watch it slip from their fingers. That pain of losing is never easy to forget, the sourness will linger in their mouth for a long time. They could be losing more than a fight. They could be losing something we are not aware of such as a security of their family, a secured future, etc. They could be losing more than just a bet or a fight. They could be losing tenfold that we don't know but the struggler themselves. 

Or it could just be their personality that they can never suffer a loss and must always be the one that wins and gains that upper hand. 

The mentality of gain and losses develop when we were very young. Outside factors shape us and family surroundings push us to either be someone who needs to always gain the upper hand to become stronger and once we get a taste of how it is to lose once- we don't want to lose again. Therefore when we grow older- we naturally either don't care if we gain or lose. There are also the people that grow up to try their best to always be the gainer and never have to taste the bitterness of losing. 

What everyone doesn't realize is the more you gain through life is that you will lose more than what you gain by tenfold. One of my deceased aunt's once said: gain and loss. You must lose something, give something away in order to gain something in return. Once you gain too much that is not meant to be yours- the universe will strip you by tenfold in return.  

Everyone is meant to have a certain amount of things in life whether it be money, clothes, food, career, happiness, family, loved ones, etc. That is already written down in our fate by the universe. When you step over the boundaries of how much you are meant to have in life, then you will start losing what should have never been yours. There is no point in trying to keep what doesn't belong to you. 

Everyone needs to spend more time appreciating what they already have and caring and treasuring what they already hold. The most important thing is not trying to gain a job, win an argument to prove your point, or gain a new client.The most important thing to realize is who you are losing in that process, what you are losing, and whether or not you will regret it in the future. Regret doing certain choices that you made.