Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Thoughts on Rhonda Byrne's The Secret

My friend introduced me to a series of books by Rhonda Byrne called The Secret is an amazing book. She recommended it when I confided in her about my relationship problems and after I started reading it I couldn’t stop. The book is very down to earth and is able to relatable to most people I feel. We should always seek ways to improve ourselves and become a better person especially if we’d had a horrible childhood or life. However, it also depends on what we’re taught and how we were raised for us to be willing to find ways to improve ourselves.  Not everyone is willing to change sometimes because they’ve been a certain way for so long that they don’t know what will happen if they changed and sometimes it’s because they feel their way about life is the right way.

We cannot change people or force them to or we will meet people and situations which try to force us to change as well. How you treat people is how people will treat you in the long run. If you don’t like to be forced to accept the views of others, then please don’t argue an try to make others accept your views on whatever it is! It will come back to you and then it’s a cycle that never stops.

I digress way more than necessary. My point is this book overlapped a lot with my way of thinking and what I’ve been raised to believe and experienced to believe. There are some points in the book that goes against what I have been taught growing up so there are some things that I have to make an effort to change. It’s not a very difficult effort – they mentioned it should be done without much effort and it should just flow.

The main idea and points I loved was how they spoke of thoughts and feelings and how to always believe in the universe as being filled with abundance and don’t think negative thoughts. When you think negative thoughts, you attract negative thoughts, people, and situations. Always be grateful and be thankful. Another thing I really loved about the book was all the real life experiences the contributors shared. I adored the part about how quantum physics explain the universe as an energy field and we are all pillars of energy with so much love and untapped potential. We should start tapping into that now and nothing is impossible. Any incurable disease is curable. Don’t be anti-this or that because that’ll only bring more anti rallies and unrest to society.

  • ·      Visualize that you’re already an amazing author or healer or whatever you want to be each day and the light will make it happen. Don’t stress out about the how it will happen because that is not for you to know or worry about. Just focus on your actions so they don’t contradict what you want, in short make sure your thoughts, feelings, actions, are all in alignment and it will happen. Love yourself and respect yourself first.
  • ·      You should be giving to those in need without seeking repayment. You should feel good about giving and not feel resentment after giving. Be happy that you are helping those in need. Don’t think ‘I don’t have enough.’ You have to believe that ‘I have enough to give’. You will then attract like thoughts back to you.
  • ·      Don’t complain but be grateful for what you have each day. Don’t say you wished you had this or one day you’ll have that. You already do if you are willing to believe and feel it is in your grasp.

The book made me think and I’m glad I read it. I cannot wait to read The Power. I am grateful each day already but this book has taught me some valuable lessons that explained to me why I haven’t achieved anything I wanted. There was always this amount of doubt in me when I wanted to do something like I am insufficient to make something reality. However, the book speaks that doubt is the worst enemy one can have and it will ruin us. Never doubt yourself. It’s very inspiring and enlightening. I recommend you all to read it.

Friday, March 6, 2015

Why Care About Views of Others?

“The views of society is only for a brief amount of time, but heartache lasts a lifetime." 

I have been experiencing mentally and emotionally but am surprised that I have not had a breakdown yet. I just wanted to share these words of wisdom with you and share some of my insight on this matter as well since I have come across a situation recently in which a person chose ambitions over a person. We all have ambitions and it's understandable and admirable as well. However, when your ambitions threaten to cause you to lose someone or something that you hold dear then that is dangerous. Many of us may not have ambition at the top of the list but have certain principles and rules to abide by. Rules and principles are dead but people are alive. Are you really willing to lose that thing you treasure to rules that only allow you to pass something by? There are also people who are privacy freaks and don’t wish anyone knowing their business especially at work such as dating a coworker. Maybe they cannot take the whispers behind their back or the gossips will arise or how others will view them so they choose to lose what they care for.

I chose the saying at the beginning of this post that I found in a current series I am watching and did my best to translate it for this reason. 

Society’s views only last for a brief amount of time. The views of others on you and what you chose to do shouldn’t be paid much care to if you really treasure what you have or whom you love. Whatever they say is there business as long as you don’t allow that to get to you. Be firm in what you want, in whom you love, and in your faith that every thing you hear will eventually die down before you know it. If you are able to withstand those views, you will prove not only your passion and determination but also how you are as a person. If you loved something enough or had a deep passion, wouldn’t you choose to ignore what others say and keep on moving forward with your beliefs no matter what? 

Wouldn’t you choose to lose everything before you can bear to lose what you truly hold dear and care about? Don’t make that mistake of worrying about how friends, family, coworkers, society will view you. Worry of how you will be viewed in the eyes of those who understand, care, and accept you for all you are and are not. Because views only last a brief amount of time, yet heartache unfortunately lasts a lifetime and probably longer. 

No regrets right? Why be guilty with regret because of things you were afraid to do, or say, or views you didn’t want and lose the bigger thing? Please don’t make that mistake and make even a bigger mistake by losing what you thought you could lose. 
Take the leap and do what society says is unacceptable regardless of what it is you want to do. Don't worry about what others think but focus on yourself and what your thoughts and heart are trying to tell you. There will always be people who say 'this isn't acceptable' or 'that goes against all natural ways of life'. No matter what they say as long as it feels right to you then why not go through with it?

Yes, not everyone may understand you’re thinking, or your way of life, or morals that you live by. The heart wants what it wants and you have the decision to choose whether you will deny what you want by hiding behind an excuse or standing up against the views and even your own principles probably. Be strong and don’t waver in your dreams, in love, in life, in your ambitions, in what you want. 

Monday, February 23, 2015

Love Padlocks Around the World and Its Controversy

If you are unfamiliar with love locks please go to this link and read up on them: Background Information on Love Locks and their meaning! 

The history of love padlocks dates back at least 100 years to a melancholy Serbian tale of World War I, with an attribution for the bridge Most Ljubavi (lit. the Bridge of Love) in spa town of Vrnjačka Banja.[2] A local schoolmistress named Nada, who was from Vrnjačka Banja, fell in love with a Serbian officer named Relja. After they committed to each other Relja went to war in Greece where he fell in love with a local woman from Corfu. As a consequence, Relja and Nada broke off their engagement. Nada never recovered from that devastating blow, and after some time she died due to heartbreak from her unfortunate love. As young women from Vrnjačka Banja wanted to protect their own loves, they started writing down their names, with the names of their loved ones, on padlocks and affixing them to the railings of the bridge where Nada and Relja used to meet.[3][4]In rest of Europe, love padlocks started appearing in the early 2000s.[5] The reasons love padlocks started to appear vary between locations and in many instances are unclear. However, in Rome, the ritual of affixing love padlocks to the bridge Ponte Milvio can be attributed to the 2006 book I Want You by Italian author Federico Moccia, who made a film adaptation in 2007.[6][7]
When I first became aware of love locks was when I saw them in some music videos I came across on youtube, I found the idea of attaching locks to doors, bridges and other places to be quite creative and I always wondered why and how it started. I wasn't aware it was such a huge tradition nor had such a heartbreaking history as the quoted section above. However, I came across this topic again yesterday while I was watching a new music video and just had to find out. Because the music video was so sweet and sad at the same time, I had to know the whole story of these locks.

The historical significance behind love locks is tear jerking and how generations after them chose to express and turn it into a bigger tradition is even more inspiring and notable to me. I am so happy to see so many people believe that their love is unbreakable. Who wants their love to be breakable right? Everyone wishes for their love to last for a long time even if they died the lock they left on a bridge will remain.

I believe these locks signify that there is love that does not break in the world and to have faith that you will one day find an unbreakable love yourself. I wish to visit one of these locations someday and read all the names on each lock and dates and see if there is one that is at least decades old. That would be really sweet to see. I hope one day I can go there with my other half and attach our own lock to the collection of happy couples in the world. I do wonder if it's was a heat of a moment decision to put a lock on after a first date or if they knew they wanted to spend their lives with this person for a lifetime.

However, the sad thing is the government sees these kind of acts as vandalism and loitering. I can see how it is vandalism and loitering but this is such a creative and artistic tradition that doesn't really bother anyone in my opinion. Why should it be seen similar to something like graffiti? They want their love for someone to be known to the world and encourage young and old to not give up in believing in love regardless of how old, is that wrong? As a result, many locks have been taken off of many places around the world because it was said to cause rust on bridges, problems to the infrastructures, and even forbidden in some countries! All I can say is the people will find another way and place to hang them in the public.

I think this is a very cute idea and as a writer, I feel I get so much inspiration from seeing these amazing photos and places that still have these locks. I would want to read what some of those say! There are wishing wells and wishing trees all around the world and they haven't be seen as loitering or vandalism so why should this? Those bridges are made for transportation and for the convince of traveling for people so technically it belongs to the people right? This should be a culture that is allowed around the world and not seen as vandalism. This is a violation of freedom of space, will, thought, and expression!

Who agrees?

Sunday, February 22, 2015

Forget and Forgive

I sometimes feel that those who waste time holding a grudge against someone you love and care for or don't care for is a pointless thing to do. I could go on and on with the list of possible people you hold a grudge to who probably don't even give a crap of how you feel or if you are holding a grudge. Life is too short to hate someone and even shorter to hold a grudge for someone they did like ten years or three months ago. If you truly love someone or care for that person who caused you such intense pain for you to hold a grudge or a strong negative feeling towards them, you would choose to forget and forgive. Because if you really do still care for them or even have a shred of love and care for them left, you would find love triumphs over your grudge against them. 

Many would say that it is easier said than done but not entirely impossible. You just need a big enough heart to forget what happened and be willing to let go of what happened. It's not the end of the world because it could happen again with a different person. Yes, forgetting what happened isn't easy because you suffered a great pain and emotional trauma but think of what reason the other party had and why they did it at that time. Be in their shoes. Don't only think of yourself. 

If you only think of yourself, you are only mentally and emotionally torturing yourself while the other party may not even be aware that you are bearing such a deep grudge against them when it may have been a simple matter or complicated depending on the nature of the incident. If you are unwilling to forgive and forget, then you are only hindering your own movement towards a better future. Your stubbornness in choosing to keep remembering what happened will eat you up and you would probably do crazy acts that will have severe consequences. 

Don't most major religions teach us to forgive and forget? To accept others for all they are and most importantly to accept yourself? This is the only way you can move forward and when you see those that hurt you again, you can be able to say: 'let's start fresh from page one.' Nothing is impossible as long as you are willing to let go of your own stubbornness of your grudge and willing to forget the pain you suffered. Don't see it as pain you suffered but choose to see it as a lesson learned and an experience that made you stronger. :) So please practice forgive and forget each day. 

Take a moment to think about this sometimes. Do you really detest and hate them that much? Is it a grudge that cannot be forgiven and forgotten? Are you willing to use so much time and energy to resent them for years on end? Everyone can be forgiven for anything no matter how horrible it was. The problem is if you are willing to give them a second chance and willing to start afresh no matter what they did. 

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Happy Chinese New Year! Year of the Goat

Check this link if you aren't too familiar with what exactly goes on for Asian families on this amazing holiday:  Chinese New Year Traditions and Background Info  ! 

It's that time of year again for asians all around the world. It's Chinese New Year!!! This year is the year of the sheep as you can see! I loved Chinese New Year very much because my culture is something I am very proud of and respect. There are other reasons I love this celebration and that is because it's a chance to get together with family, enjoy good food and really celebrate our traditions and morals. 

Younger generations would probably say that they love this holiday because of the time they get off from work and all the lucky money they get from those that are married. I will never forget the excitement in opening those red envelopes and seeing how much money you got. It's similar to christmas for many. 

So I hope everyone who is celebrating the Chinese New Year to enjoy it to the fullest this year, to make many great memories, resolutions, and wishes for this new year! I am very tired going on with three hours of sleep in the last 24 hours. Please remind me to never blog when I am in such a state.

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Rowdy Young Generation!

Rowdy young generation of teens that I witnessed on the 147 northbound bus from downtown Chicago on Valentine’s Day this year. I’ve always managed to keep an open mind regarding high school kids because I’ve been in their shoes. I was never the outgoing and loud nor a troublemaker during my school years, but I was aware of how out of control high school kids may be.

A friend once told me that the younger generation holds so much promise nowadays, and they are daring and brimming with fiery passion about new ideas to break through traditional and old views and ideas. I thought about what he said back then and it did make sense. There are good high school kids out there but it only takes a few rotten apples to ruin the whole batch. I see high school kids as people who have not yet experienced enough of life and too overly fearless and do stupid things. I feel that in their eyes they believe they have all the right in the world and freedom to do whatever it is they desire once out of adult supervision. That is where the trouble starts.

As stereotypical as this may sound, what do high school teens know about the hardships of everyday life adults go through, the scars and experiences adults bear all the way through life? High school teens only see themselves and their own ways of enjoyment, as this is factual because my cousin is this way. I envy them and also wish they would mature faster. Life is not up to them. Life will push them down and wound them even if they feel it’s unlikely. Things are not always as easy as they think nor is their way of thinking the ‘only right way’.

I digress so my apologies. What happened on Valentine’s Day was a group of teens got on the bus, loud and out of control there were both boys and girls. During the ride back up north, the teens would not stop hopping and climbing on and off the elevated step located at the center of bus. They kept popping their gum nonstop and talking about pointless things. None of them would settle down and just hold onto the spot where they were standing. They kept popping their gums loudly and everyone on the bus was irritated and tired already so hearing that all the way back for me at least was very agitating. They were so focused on themselves that they didn't care or consider if it was bothering anyone.

There was no sense of self control from them nor worry about how they were portraying themselves in public. I feel this is a good and bad thing to an adult to see teens with such energy and life is of course great and may even arouse envy in them. I do miss my teen years where I could be as care and worry free as them though it wasn’t too carefree or burden free but there was no pressure of responsibility in my memory at least.

When the bus got off the highway, one of the teen girls bumped into a man who was standing behind her causing him to nearly hit his head on the pole. He was not playing around and turned around and said: ‘So having to listen to you popping your gum all the way back wasn’t enough but now you have to bump into me too?’ Boy- I was impressed because he had spoken for everyone who was fed up with this rowdy group. The girl and her friends just backed away so fast and silently away from him like lost puppies. It does take someone to set these rowdy teens in place. I still do believe there are good teens but the majority I’ve seen on social media and on buses and trains only scream out to me that they have no sense of self-control, which is sad.

Teens are so full of life, so full of freedom, has such a vast lack of self-control, and self-centered that reminds adults of how it was to be so young. They are too reckless and inexperienced and when life smacks them in the face one day real good...forcing them to change...I wonder how it will be like then. 

I understand teens want to let loose on weekends but do think about where you are and about how you’re appearing to others in public and exercise more self-control. This also begs a bigger question of nature versus nurture and concerns of who teens hang out with nowadays. 

Friday, February 13, 2015

Happy Valentine's Day !

I recently came across an interesting tweet on twitter yet it disappeared for some reason even though I saved it. It was very good but I was unable to find it again but I remember it faintly and so I will do my best to improvise on what I remember from that tweet!

Basically the prompt was where does love come from? Does it come from the heart or your feelings or something completely different? What does love mean to this generation? What does love mean to you? I feel this is one of those questions where it’s repetitive but offers so much diversity in the answers you can receive. It’s exciting to hear what others think so please comment if interested!

As I always do for my posts, I’ll offer my answer and thoughts on the questions that were brought up earlier. I do believe that love comes from the heart. The heart is a mysterious organ and many ancient civilizations believed that emotions are born from the heart and all we feel is born from there. The heart is the holder of the long list of emotions we all experience in our life long journey.

Let’s think of why that makes sense. Because every time we are aroused by a desire, it starts in the mind but if your heart is not into it then there is no point. The mind is only the logical and rational component of our human frame. The heart is the one that sparks up that fiery passion and desires that serves as the throttle for so many things. The heart triggers the fiery determination to not give up. The heart and mind must coexist each other, one starts the idea and the other adds the enthusiasm and passion to the act to make us more driven by it.

I’ve done a lot of lurking around social media sites and apps before getting ready to answer this question of what love means to this generation. I feel that everyone is different but for many teens in high school I feel love is more based on physical appearances and sexuality than what lies inside a person. Teens tend to go for the hot girls with the great butts and big chests. Not giving much care to personality wise as long as they have similar topics. It’s understandable and not a bad thing but kind of insubstantial and they’re young so it’s understandable. I go on social media sites and there are many posts that go: ‘guy with the navy blue shirt in the lunchroom, you’re so hot!’ It’s so bold of girls to do that on social media risking that that guy may find out but probably not. I feel the majority is so bold in stating this complements in hopes of starting a relationship with them. I envy these youngsters for being so bold and brave. I think that’s what love means to many in this generation. There are some who aren’t as bold and tend to like someone from afar. Everyone is different but if you like someone then go for it. The bottom line is I feel everyone just dreads the feeling of being alone and loneliness. They want someone to share the ups and downs of life with.

As for me, I’ve always been evasive in love and I have had my share of rough patches. I’ve refused to even think about relationships for a long time but the loneliness has been irritating me. I can be bold if the other party is not. Because it shoves me to be the initiative, I guess it’s a challenge but also a chance for me to practice being more open than waiting for others to make the first move. I’ve always had rotten luck in love. I digress too much.

I think love for me is finding someone who knows what you’re thinking without saying anything. Someone who understands you better than you understand yourself and it’s the same the other way around. Someone who is there through the good and bad times and doesn’t abandon you even if everyone does. Someone who can make you laugh even when you’re crying is the most precious, someone who is willing to listen to you rant endlessly and you are willing to listen to them as well. There is mutual respect and an undying, unfading affection between two people is the sweetest thing ever, gentle and calm.

As you grow older- I feel you don't care less about looks but you don't place it as the first thing you look at either. You look at personality and inner beauty more. 

What are your thoughts and opinions on these questions? Please feel free to share and have a sweet valentine’s day regardless if you are spending it with someone or spending it with a pizza and Netflix. Just remember that your friends love you and your family loves you and your other half loves you and you are never alone!